I will admit to feeling slightly relieved when I saw Instagram flooded with anti-2016 posts. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing really to complain about but I feel like 2016 could have been a bit more impressive. So while I’m thinking of my New Year Resolutions for 2017 (yes, I’m a little bit behind), I thought I’d reflect on the year that was and think about the lessons it taught me.
1. I don’t have to be a mum all the time. This is something I learnt slowly throughout the year and then at our most recent coastal holiday, this lesson really hit me in the face. Sometimes it’s okay for others to take care of your child so you can enjoy you.
2. I don’t want to cruise through life. I’ve always counted myself as a bit of a hippy – I would happily live my life wandering around bare foot and filling my home with healing crystals – but at the end of the day, I want a lot out of life. I want to travel, I want have a successful business, I want a good and happy future for my family and do this you really need to greet each day with a purpose. That’s what this year is for Mr Fiance and I. We spent last year moving further into debt while I was on maternity leave only to claw back in the second half of the year and now this year is about hitting the ground running and getting on with it.
3. I really like matcha. The first time I tasted matcha was about 5 years ago in the Singapore airport. This first hit has become an obsession. Thankfully, it’s now a thing and I can try matcha in all sorts of forms as suggested by Pinterest. I’m in green tea heaven.
4. Good skin care is a necessity. I need to put this knowledge into action. Now that I’m in my late 20’s I feel I’m running out of places to hide. Any suggestions for good skin care?
5. At the end of the day, it’s just me, my fiancé and my daughter. As long as a choice I make benefits us as a family, then that’s all that matters.
6. Keep your friends closer. People will put their opinions out there or do things you really don’t like, if you can’t stand them, move on. Life really is too short to worry about the insignificant.
7. Do what you want. Life is full of obligations and things that you have to do but what about the things you want to do? Leave the washing and pick up a book, a piece of paper and pen, go outside and lay in the sun. Doing what you want once in a while is a million times more satisfying than doing the chores. Kudos to you if chores are what you really want to do. This leads me to my next point.
8. It is okay to delegate. Over the past few months I’ve been looking at what we spend a lot of our time on and don’t really want to be. I’ve realised that delegating tasks like cleaning and groceries is okay. It’s not about what you can and can’t do. It’s about freeing up your time to – you guessed it – do what you want.
9. Happiness is solar powered. My future father-in-law taught me this term. A coastie through and through, he says he gets his energy from the sun and in many ways, he’s right. I’ve learnt that the more time I spend in the sun, the happier I am, the clearer my mind is, the better I am as a partner, mother and friend.
10. It’s okay to be proud. I have found that when talking to others, if something in my life is more positive than in theirs, I will always put a negative spin on it so that it doesn’t seem like I’m bragging or trying to compete. Do you know what? It’s just such a silly thing to do. I’m allowed to have good things in my life. This year I won’t hide it. I will celebrate it.
What have you learnt this past year?